I’m Afraid of Men by Vivek Shraya
I’m Afraid of Men, the best-selling new book from Vivek Shraya, explores how masculinity was imposed on her as a boy and continues to haunt her as a girl—and how we might re-imagine gender for the 21st century.

- Last updated: September 8, 2023
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"She used to get spit on at the bus stop — now she's fighting back with a new book"
"The book is slim at just under 96 pages but impressively well-rounded, reading as diary writings with intimate reflections on Shraya’s complicated relationship with men, or rather masculinity."
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"At 85 pages, Vivek Shraya’s nonfiction bestseller I’m Afraid of Men has been called 'slim.'"
CBC, 16:27 minute interview. "Throughout her life she's endured acts of cruelty and aggression for being too feminine as a boy and not feminine enough as a girl."
"Vivek Shraya’s I’m Afraid of Men a powerful look at how words hurt"
Author's Website. "Ivek Shraya is an artist whose body of work crosses the boundaries of music, literature, visual art, theatre, and film."